Stages of Narcissistic Abuse

Written to reflect and learn from:

Love bombing / idealization:

I love you bb

You’re so cute bb, like kid

I want to build our future together bb

I fell in love with you the moment you played the piano for me

Sing for me bb

I love your muscle bb

I want to lie on your tummy

You will marry me ok?

I want to see you so much bb

I want to see your family bb

I miss you so so much bb

I want you to be the first one to sit in my car

10 years is too long to get married… can we get married sooner b?

I want to live together with you bb

Narcissistic Dumping:

All my exes were trash, used my money and cheat on me (end up they’re actually the one that physically abused all their exes and cheated on them)

I couldn’t sleep whole night.. Stressed about work, had to take sleeping pill..

I really don’t like my best friends… They only stay with me to use me always

My mother is crazy… always fight with me and use me, I do everything for her but she never appreciate me

My bad boss do so many horrible things to me

I have credit card debt.. bb can you help me please? if not i’m so stressed

i feel like i want to die by 30… life is so meaningless and i feel so empty

Everyone is against me, I work so hard but why I always get this

Devaluing:

I am old money and high society.. You are poor people

Pay for this bitch!

Bye bitch.

Smelly Chinese mouth!

You always too much, make me tired!

Stop singing, you sound horrible

You cannot force me to say “I love you”, you control me too much!

Don’t force me!

You’re not match with me.

Stop embarrassing me!

I’m so tired talking with you.

Why did the hotel repost your photo and not mine? It’s because you take horrible photo of me! Fuck you!

You go to the gym but still so fat.

You don’t support me at all!

I’m just calculative, that’s the way I am, you stupid or what?

Never meet me again if you wear shorts! You look like poor people!

Stop blowing your nose so loud!

You always make me wait for you, I don’t like it!

Stop wearing these socks, you not a child anymore and I am embarrassed to go out with you!

If you come meet me, you have to learn manners, our culture is more well-mannered than yours, Chinese people always laughed by us because you are so rude

Non of your business!

Fuck you and fuck off!

I want revenge because you make me wait and make me embarrassed, I want to make you feel 2 times what I feel

Why your leg hair so long and ugly

(Why did you cheat on me with so many guys?) You never ever understand me that’s why

I hate Chinese people.. I only love you for your money

You sat in my car, now you pay me fuel! I don’t care you have no money left!

Don’t be poor people!

Why are all of my exes and you all crazy in love with me? 

You have an ugly Chinese nose, you should go for surgery… maybe your jaw too you look fat.

Drama again, this is boring.

You always give me problem and stress

You know, all my best friends might treat you well but they’re all laughing at you and complaining to me

I’m fucking smart, but you are stupid

I’ve always seen you as boring and silly

the money you give me is what you owe me!

Discard:

we’re not match, i was only joking but you make it drama.

(i want to tell you to stop calling me horrible things)

I hate when you always come back with drama!

then don’t talk to me anymore, fuck you!

December 2022 to May 2023 - Remember the good times and learn from the bad. Good bye <3